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"Consent is compelling and disturbing and a welcome expansion of our urgent conversation"--Rebecca Traister

Donna Freitas has lived two lives. In one life, she is a well-published author and respected scholar who has traveled around the country speaking about Title IX, consent, religion, and sex on college campuses. In the other, she is a victim, a woman who suffered and suffers still because she was stalked by her graduate professor for more than two years.

As a doctoral candidate, Freitas loved asking big questions, challenging established theories and sinking her teeth into sacred texts. She felt at home in the library, and safe in the book-lined offices of scholars whom she admired. But during her first year, one particular scholar became obsessed with Freitas' academic enthusiasm. He filled her student mailbox with letters and articles. He lurked on the sidewalk outside her apartment. He called daily and left nagging voicemails. He befriended her mother, and made himself comfortable in her family's home. He wouldn't go away. While his attraction was not overtly sexual, it was undeniably inappropriate, and most importantly--unwanted.

In Consent: A Memoir of Unwanted Attention, Donna Freitas delivers a forensic examination of the years she spent stalked by her professor, and uses her nightmarish experience to examine the ways in which we stigmatize, debate, and attempt to understand consent today.

About the Author

Donna Freitas writes both fiction and nonfiction, most recently, Consent on Campus: A Manifesto. She has lectured at nearly two hundred colleges and universities about her research on college students. She lives in Brooklyn.

Praise For…

"A meticulously recounted
memoir of building dread, that pushes our understanding of power and its
abuses. Freitas's story complicates and illuminates our ideas about harassment
and harm, showing how it doesn't just begin and end within the confines of
physical contact: it infiltrates our own heads, is enabled by the very
structures that are supposed to be our recourse from it but too often work to
cover it up."—Rebecca Traister, New York Times bestselling author of Good and Mad

"Donna Freitas
combs through the emotional knots that form when a mentor's attention becomes
inappropriate and manipulative. With sharp attention, she separates the many
strands of consent one by one. A riveting, significant examination of the
forces that push a student into silence about unwanted attention."—Idra Novey, award-winning author of Those Who Knew and Ways to Disappear

"A groundbreaking resource for educators, administrators, students, and survivors, the book explores an issue many would prefer to ignore.A potent memoir of stalking with special resonance in the era of #MeToo.—Kirkus, starred review

"Any reader interested in current discussions
on consent and its importance should pick up this heartfelt and harrowing book."
Library Journal, starred review

"Freitas' delicate study of her torment and its devastating effects, which raises thorny, meaningful questions about how to define consent, is an important testament for the #MeToo era."—Publisher's Weekly
Product Details
ISBN: 9780316450522
ISBN-10: 0316450529
Publisher: Little, Brown and Company
Publication Date: August 13th, 2019
Pages: 336

Consent: A Memoir of Unwanted Attention (Hardcover)